Trifling Women and Child Support: Woman to Woman

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Ladies! Ladies! Ladies! This goes out to my hardworking brothers out there that take care of responsibilities and voila, baby mama drama from a woman scorned who thinks luxury on your tab is acceptable, because she has your baby. Well…, let’s see here, I’m a woman who doesn’t receive child support and I look at the women who drive luxurious vehicles and are label queens of fashion on their baby daddy’s tab and say DAMN! I’m like…, “mine ya business, that’s all, just mind ya business,” until I here chatter and it’s HER saying… “Girl, I got Johnny on lock. If he knows what’s best for him, he’ll continue giving me this money. Plus, I found out he has a new girlfriend. Whatever, I’m taking all his money, so, that bitch won’t get anything.” WTF? Seriously, lady, you’re taking advantage of a man who is doing right by his child! You need to get your ass up and work, that’s first and far most. Second, do not worry about who he’s with, because as long as the CHILD isn’t going without food, shelter, anything the young lad needs, daddy gets it; then shut your trap, do your part and be thankful that you have a baby father who is a REAL man.  I love my fellah’s, so, I had to come down on the women who are taken advantage of good men that are great baby daddies. Trifling women, it’s not fair and it’s not right; remember there’s a God that sits up high and looks down low.

Should Men Who Refuse To Pay Child Support: Be Excused Because They Make Phone Calls?

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  So we're in 2011, the economy is messed up, expenses are increasing, jobs are limited, children are needy and it's our jobs as parents to provide. So, what happens, when a child support court order is rendered and the non-custodial parent is ordered to pay his dues and instead he thinks calling and giving a sob story should generate financial support from crocodile tears? Apparently, this is becoming a wide-spread epidemic for men who were babied entirely too much by their mothers. They feel no sense of responsibility and expect the rest of the world to embrace them the same. Let's look at a main factor here: it takes money to raise a child. Argument: "Money isn't important, its love that is more important." Rebuttal: WTF? Okay, granted, love is important, but haven't we all heard the saying… "Love gives me such a thrill/ but your love/ don't pay my bills/ I need money/ that's what I want…?" Some men try to tie in personal feelings rather than thinking about the child's well being; therefore, they result to saying "you just want money from me." So, the mother struggles with buying baby food, clothes, transportation, paying educational fees, all because your thought process is of a ghetto mentality, the whole idea of "I'm not going to give a woman money for my child, let her do it, if she feels it's important; heck, as long as I call my child or see him or her, that's better than helping out financially." Blog readers, these are actual male responses and it is a crime shame! It is appalling to know that folks tend to excuse themselves out of anything in regards to taking care of the beautiful earthlings they implanted in someone else. It takes two to make a baby, so, it should take two to equally support the child with love, financial assistance, and a healthy living arrangement. Phone calls should NOT take the place of Child Support. What is the definition of Child Support?
Answer: Function: noun
:  payment made for the support of the children of divorced or separated parents while the children are minors or until they reach an age set by the separation agreement or in a court order (http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/Child+Support). Notably, men are often upset by the word Child Support. Is it because bad seeds have been implanted in their heads by other women, per se their own mothers or other men who have had bad experiences dealing with "baby mama drama" and decide to utilize those negative teachings to not pay child support? Whatever the reasons are, it is NOT okay to NOT support your children and this goes for women too! However, another topic will discuss trifling women who have children and the fathers of those babies DO pay child support or may not be court ordered, but does what is right and they "dog" them out. That topic is the next focus (blog). Conclusively, a Phone Call here and there, doesn't take the place of your legal obligatory to pay your child support. Remember, there's a God who sits up high and looks down low. "I leave you with this." –Cynthia Corbett

Is Having Sex with a Pregnant Woman Okay, if you aren’t the Baby’s Father?

Weird question, huh? Is it a lack of self-respect on both parties part when an act of such intimacy takes place during a maternal state when the guy isn't the father of the unborn? Not many ask this question and this is something that should be addressed. I'm no expert, but I'm pretty sure it doesn't take much brain power to figure out that this is Dead Wrong (My Opinion)! Okay, judge me, but I have seen porn with pregnant women and I can't believe that they needed the money that bad to even sleep with a man and let them ejaculate inside of them, feeding the fetus this unknown sperm. They are not the father! As much as we can fuss out women who does this, is it right to point fingers at the men who engages in it? I've heard guys say that sex is better with a pregnant woman. I'm like really dude, you are pathetic. Some men are very comfortable with having sex with a woman who isn't carrying their child; to that, I say…, definitely no moral conviction whatsoever. Okay, dislike me if I'm right or wrong, but it's a fact that women's hormones rage out of control when they are prenatal, but that doesn't constitute spreading your legs to a guy who isn't fathering the child for which you are being blessed with. I'm pretty sure those who read this will say…, "It is up to the persons who are involved." True, enough, but is it safe to say that taking part of this is morally wrong and downgrading? Do we not think about the child whom is in the womb? However, I am not speaking of those that were or are pregnant and didn't know that you were; you are excluded from this topic. Until next time…"I leave you with this."-Cynthia Corbett

Revenge On An Ex

Okay, I posted on Facebook this Title: "#Random Question: Is revenge on an ex necessary? Okay fam, let's say you dated someone and you two mingle here and there; you two parted on not so good terms, do you think it's right as revenge to lead that person on saying you forgave them and then give notion towards working things out, knowing that you have someone else you plan on being with?"

I had several answers on my profile about this, and it was nice to get the opinion of others sense revenge has been a well taught tactic amongst our society. Throughout the years there has been revenge such as slashing tires, bursting windows out of cars, bleaching clothes, more notably burning ones property (Movie: Waiting to Exhale and RIP Left eye). However, there seems to be more of an emotional deviant way to get revenge on someone. People are now learning to play mind games on their exes and thrive off of playing the "I Love You" game with the intent to persuade the other that a relationship is possible knowing that it isn't. This type of revenge could be the most deviant one of them all, because this is not destroying materialistic things, but destroying the self of one's inner being. This post here is to open the eyes of those who are still mingling with exes in a hope to re-kindle a romance that has died and perhaps shouldn't be brought back to life in the first place. Revenge isn't a good way to make you feel better about a situation. When it comes to the exes, it's best to let Karma prevail and leave the hoopla alone. "Revenge is mine, thus, said the Lord." People try too hard to play God. I am a strong believer based on my experiences w/ being the good doer and the evil doer that revenge ends up being a cycle and just how you reciprocate ones actions, it'll come back to you tenfold. Until next time: "I leave you with this."-Cynthia Corbett

Featured Comment from Facebook:
Ashanti Hill it is never right to lead anyone on.. A heart string is not a good instrument to play… It is always out of tune.

 

In between Women

Hmm…, let's see here, how many women have known guys that have bounced you around like a ball? Perhaps, this generation is officially infected with the "I just want to chill or vibe" bug. Let's see, you give time and energy to only receive no calls or text. Per se, a few pet names tagged in a text will do, but when will a stand be taken against the social influence of such degrading behavior? Since, I am a woman, I am analyzing from a woman's perspective; no offense guys, because there are some of you that really mean well. However, in this instance, I have come across the "I just want to chill factor." Chill- I want to have sex with you with no strings attach. Learning the definitions of these statements is viral. It is important to know that our moral receptive have been condensed to accept the lack of self-respect that we tolerate from the opposing gender. When this verbal agreement is made, you are exposing yourself, to heartache, STD's, and lack of self-respect. I say this because the innuendo only regulates the fact that you are a play-thing and he has no other means for you, until he's ready to pull you out of his toy chest once he's tired of the other puppet, who perhaps just maybe the actual misses. Something to think about, eh..? UNFORTUNATELY, FOR YOU, HE'S IN BETWEEN WOMEN. This is where we ladies should take a stand. Know your self-worth. Stop playing the fool and become someone that can't be taken advantage of. Don't get me wrong, it's not easy to see all the time. I mean we have the guys that are so slithery that whatever poison he spits, we're too immune to feel the toxin; we're harmed once the venom has reached the highest level of octane. Society has projected this "lets chill" theory as a more approachable lifestyle to suit the needs of those who want to go against the godly approach to a more biblical living. You make the choice, but know when to look for signals of a man who uses you to be in between women. He's confused ladies, and don't make yourself available to someone who never planned to make you a top priority, but a lesser value. "I Leave You With This"- Cynthia Corbett

Good “First” Night Psyche Thoughts

As the day closes in, I am reminded that there's another day, if I shall not pass before I awake. Tomorrow is a new revelation and you're back to square one; same paint, different canvas. Social life, love gone right or wrong, job search, or employed and unhappy. Let's face it; we mustn't continue to allow ourselves to be locked up in thoughts that may depress us. For ones psyche, let's generate positive energy and interject that into our final conscious as we lay to rest the thoughts that once bound us to self-mutilation. Until next time, may you be enriched by the power invested in ones self to create energy that is effervescent. "I leave this with you." –Cynthia Corbett

T.S.P.A-Introduction

How many of us out there are so overwhelmed with the thoughts that go on in our heads that we want an outlet; a social mass to help us feel comfortable about ourselves? Well, this is why I've created this. I have many thoughts in my head in regards to society, be it morals, dating, politics, religion, youth, and etc. I also want readers to comment and express themselves as a way for therapeutic measures. You are welcomed to agree to disagree. Whether you're a pre-teen, adolescent, adult, mature elder, it doesn't matter; this is the place for refuge in one's mind. I hope as postings are delivered upon this site, we will all take a virtue in respect for the opinions and theories of the blogger and commentators. I look forward towards providing social discussions that will entertain and intrigue you through The Social Psyche Adventures.